Was he ever my friend?

So last year, when I was a freshman in college I met a guy. And of course I liked him, but he said he wasn't attracted to me. Even though he did say that he always flirted etc. I am very pessimistic about human nature and extremely paranoid. So I would always ask if I was bothering him and everything nice he said I umed it was a lie. So last summer break he didn't make an attempt to cal, facebook, etc. I just finished my second year and still he flirts and other people think we're in love. I would still have doubts he really wanted to be my friend. It seemed I always had to make an effort or nag (even though he tried to insist I wasn't nagging)...we became closer and I had a sliver of hope that maybe he was my friend. A month has ped since school was out and nothing! No call, text, Facebook post...even though he said he'd call me. I feel this entire time I've been right....and it's making me more misanthropic.