Which colleges should I apply to/attend?

Those are all good schools, although UVA and UNC-Chapel Hill are hard to get into if you're from out-of-state. Depending on how far you want to travel, some other schools to consider are Indiana, Wisconsin-Madison, Notre Dame (although not much of a bar scene there), Maryland-College Park, Duke and Wake Forest. Wake is smaller than your 7,000 student limit, but they have Division I sports, a lovely campus and a friendly atmosphere. If you're planning to visit UNC, you could easily visit Wake, Duke and N.C. State on same trip because they're fairly close together.